Robin 322/365
"Monday was one of those days where I was readily aware that no one can hurt
me as much as my children can. My girls are quickly approaching those
dreaded teen years (and one is already a teen) their words now slice
through me in a different way than they did when they were 5 and they swore
they hated me. It was and is the very definition of the first cut being the
deepest...Their emotions (while irrational to everyone but them!) are more
adult. I do have to say that while my oldest daughter and I have never had
a flawless relationship this little "situation" has been a good thing, she
saw my heart break by her words and after I gave her some space she called
and apologized to me. I'm thankful I didn't keep fighting with her driving
her even further away. We have a dinner planned for Friday. I still weep
thinking about this all...and it's Wednesday. It never gets easier does
it???? BTW this photo is of comfort food....it was all I could do to pick up
the camera that day"
4 comments:
ahhh...i'm so sorry. reading this makes me grateful that i have boys. i just don't think there is quite the same relationship. but i remember one time when my mom told me that she knew i just looked at her as "mom" but she was a real person with feelings and i had hurt them. i felt like sludge.
I'm sorry for you. when we are teen, we sometimes do or say stuff that we are to young to understand. They can be so mean. I'm sure everything is gonna be alright. just give to all of you time to adjust.
When my daughter was a difficult teen, someone told me "she WILL come back to you eventually", and that became my mantra for several years. Thankfully, they were right. Hang in there.
I felt so sad for you, reading this! And I know my day will come, when Ba is older. And I also know I did the same to my mom, as an unthinking, selfish teenager speaking in anger. I've felt bad for what I put her through since I grew up enough to understand she was acting out of love. I'm glad your kid realised she'd hurt you - she already has that conscience and wisdom. Giving her time to "cool o"ff" like you did was the best thing for it! Bex
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